We celebrated women’s day on 8th March every year. Do we really need to celebrate Women’s day when most men leech at women everyday? What does celebrating women’s day really mean? Well! That is a question of many debates.
Many women bloggers and some NGOs run the Blank Noise Project which try to bring awareness against eve teasing and violence against women. Violence against women has never really stopped and its been going on generations. Labeled as the weaker sex, they are easy target for violence.
But are women really that weak?
Our company has a strong policy against Sexual harassment and everybody is aware of the policy. Many people are becoming aware about what sexual harassment really means. It might not be physical all the time. Psychological torturing the person and destroying the confidence, the freedom and the mental well being of a person by asking or suggesting sexual favors also amount to sexual harassment.
A girl I know went through the same today. She is still studying and her college professor made some very lewd comments and talked suggestively. She was not the only one but also her classmate suffered the same fate. The other classmate is undergoing a very personal tragedy of her own and something like this from the person they call a teacher was really devastating.
The girl I know rejected his advances but was very disturbed. The teacher maybe sensing that she might go to the college management panicked and started calling her to apologize. I incidentally was there when the teacher had the guts to come to their house and admit his mistakes in front of the girl and her mother.
I and her mother gave the man a sound hearing. But I was surprised by the girl who decided to stand for herself. She talked talking about the humiliation and shame she faced because of the teacher’s words. She talked about her father who had made her what she was today and she told him that she had been brought up to stand for herself.
She was not all correct in her arguments because she defended herself on the way she behaved and her attire. She wears sober clothes and yet she was harassed. I don’t think any women should defend herself for her behavior and what she wears is her own decision and no man has the right to assume that the clothes the girl wears is an invitation for eve-teasing or abusing.
The argument that clothes wore by women are acting as open invitation for men is a baseless argument presented by our so-called moral police.
She talked about everything and questioned him about his intentions. The man’s wife was also present and the wife was visibly shaken.
The man apologized and promised that it won’t happen again. Not only he would change himself, he promised not to try this against any women. I hope he keeps good his promise but I don’t trust him. We have told him, we will be watching him.
The girl I know stood for herself and I guess that is the best way to fight such lechers. Most of these lechers are coward who are ready to run at the slightest hint of being exposed. For every lecher, I am sure you will find 10 people who will help you stand against the harassment.
It was important for her to stand up today because the teacher had to understand that she was not going to run to her mother but take action herself and she should.
It was necessary to stand against that man instead of feeling ashamed of your own self or being scared of what that man could do.
I saw the spark in her and I hope to see that spark in every girl who may have faced such situation in her life.
Long back, I saw a play called “Thinagi” (spark of fire) about a PHD student who stands against the harassment of her professor.
Mee aaj thinagi pahili!
Note: Written in anger after witnessing the situation. Hope this has come as in my mind. Haven’t read the whole thing before posting so tell me when it sounds different!